So in this video I would like to share with you a standard a principle a means by which in a framework
through which you can choose other people to invest your time into wisely.
No you're not going to get this perfect right away.
All right.
Because it's going to take you quite some time to develop your third eye.
And this is where you're not just looking with those two physical eyes are actually seeing some things
that are and they are actually able to see more about Google's character.
Right now there's a word that we would use to define this called discernments.
The sentiment is a word that you would generally find discussed and talked about more in religious circles.
But it's one that's actually very very practical.
It's about being able to see things that most people can't see.
If for example you may be having a conversation with someone and you're hearing what they're seeing
in you're seeing what they're saying.
But you're also able to hear and see what they're not seeing.
This is fundamentally discernments.
All right.
Which again I have to get good if you want to become an effective life coach.
Right.
So building on from the story that I shared with you in the last video shared with you and the the Chris
principle.
Right.
We're all Jemmy maybe the man said to me Cain.
Stop wasting your time when the crisis of the world and investing your time into the kanes.
When Jemmy said that I already mentioned the lights went on from me because I fundamentally knew who
I was and also how I was.
I knew the kind of person that I was.
I knew where I was driven by I knew how hard work and a was how come method was how a lawyer when in
all these sorts of things.
I don't see these things to impress you.
Hopefully you'll come into agreement with me as we progress through the course.
They here are they would really like to share with you is a framework.
It's something that you're going to have to look for in other people.
Because when I was coaching teaching mentoring cress.
Yeah.
He was completely open to receiving some new information.
He was open to receiving my input guidance teaching mentoring coaching all sorts of things.
And he was also really appreciative that he generally appreciated spending time with me.
The only area in which Chris really let himself down was his receptiveness and receptiveness is where
we're at.
Yeah we're all pinned to receive new information.
For example Emel could really stand out here to you as you watch in this course.
You're watching the Course there for your talk the open to receiving some new information about life
coaching.
Right.
You want to become a life coach or you may just want to be making some fast improvements in the quality
of your life some day.
Either way is okay.
Does it really matter.
So are you open to some new information.
You may not be particularly appreciative of the way in which I'm delivering it.
It might be not what you expected therefore you disappointed therefore because you're disappointed you're
not going to be receptive in relation to applying it where other people are going to be completely appreciative.
They're going to be seeing Cain you're a funny guy.
You're quite an interesting life coach.
We thought life coaching just had to be really boring and bland.
You're beginning to recognize right.
No I am hopefully neither.
Well I didn't think that I am.
But you might.
Perceptions evolve.
Let's talk about perception in the next video shall we.
But for no open receptive I appreciate it.
This is the minimum standard that I'm willing to accept from other people if I'm willing and prepared
to give them my time.
No.
Obviously time is what allows us to trust people is we can ever make a well-informed decision about
who someone is and how someone is within the first few moments of meeting them.
We've got to go as people an opportunity to prove themselves to us that one of the time no that's not
because we are better than them.
But if you're anything like me.
Well yeah don't waste your time do you.
You don't want to waste your time investing Europe you're your insides share your wisdom you're the
life lessons that you've learned along the way so far and to people who aren't willing to do anything
with there.
And this is all about receptiveness.
Some people just aren't open at all.
Some people have a set of beliefs they've developed about themselves and about how well life isn't about
how the world should be.
Throughout the lifetime so far and they genuinely believe that they have all the answers.
For example no I don't but I do my best not to offend anyone here although I might offend some people
and if I do I'm very very sorry.
My intention is not to offend you.
My intention is just to enlighten the larger audience.
Okay if you want to.
Be able to recognize a group of people who aren't particularly open.
Go to a religious gathering here are not branding or religious people.
I'm just seeing many many people who attend religious gatherings have six dying idea or a fixed belief
about how life is how it should be lived how life should be who they are what their standard is for
a loving wife is very staunch and is very very rigid.
And if you live your life or conduct yourself in a way that does in fact live within the limitations
of this baulks there's box if you like.
Then there are going to reject you and see you as being heresy or a Pharisee or a wrong or whatever.
And this is where people will literally just disagree with you to defend their beliefs without even
doing anything to hear you out.
Why make any effort to listen to it understand you or to hear you automatically disagree.
If someone just automatically disagrees with you and rejects what you're seeing without attempting to
understand you and they're not open to receiving you and your message and if someone is not open to
receiving input you've got to walk away.
I it's not saying that they're never going to be open.
It's just saying that they're not all pain.
No that's not available or open right now.
So this is one side of the fence as aware.
The solution to the stand that they're talking about.
Chris was open.
He wasn't receptive.
He was appreciative but unless someone has literally taken off any boxes.
Today I'm not willing to give them any of my time whatsoever.
This is a standard that I build into my life.
Understand that I'm strongly going to encourage you to build into yours.
The reason being is because if you're anything like me well I don't know if you are or not but it's
probably fair to say this feeling for filters through what we do in life is a good thing is an it is
good to experience fulfilment in life.
It's a phenomenon of phenomenal phenomena.
And if you think about it you're only ever going to really experience for formative life.
When you grow to recognize and see that your life is making a positive impact in the life of someone
else around because you can make some money and that's going to be nice and it might make you excited
for a short period of time.
But if you won the lottery yesterday you would have had a few moments of excitement.
And all that sort of thing.
But as time goes on the excitement goes because you get used to having what is your half don't you.
But for forman's very different form it doesn't come from what we get the right many people in life
look to get stuff get get get get get get I want to get this I want to get up in the pursuit of happiness.
This is a funny thing and this is where many people are slightly misled in life.
The truth performance within life doesn't come through.
What we get it comes through what we get is materialistic goods gifts presence or if we choose to give
for the most valuable commodity that we possess as human beings which is our time.
If you think about it you can give someone some money you can give someone a chicken dinner.
You can give someone a new heart or a new pair of socks.
Give someone a candy bar.
Those things come those things go with they're fleeting.
But if you give someone else your time.
Yes they may give you their money.
You can go and get more money.
They can go and get more money when you give someone your time.
You cannot get this time back.
So for fomented life comes through knowing that we have invested our time wisely into the life of someone
else who has fundamentally benefited from us and who is appreciated us.
That said it's quite straightforward really.
No the next level of the standard called the three is great.
And again it's important that we're able to value it and assess this low checkbox look check cholesterol.
We've attached to this video a note.
Please hear me right here.
It's not there if you're in conversation with someone you've got this on a clipboard and you're evaluating
someone.
Are you open.
Yes you are.
Are you receptive.
Yes you are.
I'm appreciative.
It's more just about using this framework to feel you in and assess the conversations that you've had.
Once you have had them until this becomes a habit for you.
So you're automatically evaluating and assessing people literally instantaneously.
All right this is going to help you make much of the time that you invest into other people are wise
investments.
All right which is what you ultimately want to be making anyway.
So the people where we want to be invest and time were got to be available right now.
You remember going back to the first video we discussed the fact there's that kid listening and learning
and discussed external factors you know what's on the radio or what's on the TV or what's happening
at work what's what's happening over there how they're feeling are they feeling stressed are they feeling
anxious you've got to ask yourself the question is this person that I spend time with.
Are they available or are they elsewhere.
And this is a this is an internal perspective from them all.
They are either available for conversation because they're interested in you they're focussed on you
and they fundamentally appreciate you or they're focussed on something that's happening inside of their
mind which is incidentally where most people get trapped in life.
Most people in life play the best game of life that they play inside of their own minds because they
get played in such a good game as say their minds never actually get round to it.
Playing the game for real and they are the big bad world.
Sort of where this is more about you know right.
How aware are you because your degree of awareness is going to determine how much of all of this you
can see.
Are you aware of how self-aware they are because if they're not self-aware then they're not going to
be aware of how available they are or otherwise.
And if you're not self-aware then you're not going to be aware of how.
Dealable they are either.
So you're aware and this is absolute paramount.
If you want to build strong and meaningful relationships socially never mind life caution and attentiveness.
Right.
I tend to take Vanessa tentative there suddenly the no this is a real word I may have just invented.
I may have just made up a new word.
Please don't shoot me for this.
All new words have to get invented by someone and there's no rules is there there's no right or wrong
a tentativeness is about paying attention.
Because when we're paying complete attention to another person it's Then and only then the word Chile.
Able to see where it is there we stand with them.
Are they open.
Are they receptive.
Are they appreciative.
Are they available.
Are they aware.
And we are paying attention.
We are going to be able to see for ourselves.
Are they actually paying attention to what it is that we are seeing or are they paying more attention
to what it is that they are thinking because if they are paying more attention to what they are thinking
than what you're seeing then you my friend are wasting your time.
You my friend have just invested or wasted your time on a Chris of the world.
So I have shared this.
I was speaking from the heart.
You're being completely honest.
This all stems from the greatest mistakes that I've made.
We've not really got into the meat and bones of the Course yet.
This is more about getting you some foundations down.
So moving forward in the next few sessions we can really start building up words.
So I hope this has really made sense to you.
I don't look forward to sharing another short story with you in the next video to do with perception
perception my friend has everything.